make all monit network checks similar, with retry and timeouts.

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_apache2

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop apache2"
   if failed host localhost port 80 protocol http
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_commento

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop commento"
   if failed port 9100 protocol http
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_dnsmasq

   group system
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start dnsmasq"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop dnsmasq"
-  if failed port 53 type udp protocol dns then alert
-  if failed port 53 type udp protocol dns for 5 cycles then restart
+  if failed port 53 type udp protocol dns
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
+  if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_dovecot

   group mail
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start dovecot"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop dovecot"
-  if failed port 993 type tcpssl sslauto protocol imap for 5 cycles then restart
-  if failed port 995 type tcpssl sslauto protocol pop for 5 cycles then restart
-  if 3 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout
+  if failed port 993 type tcpssl sslauto protocol imap
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
+  if failed port 995 type tcpssl sslauto protocol pop
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
+  if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_fathom

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop fathom-stats"
   if failed port 9000 protocol http
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_gitea

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop gitea"
   if failed port 3000 protocol http
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_grafana

   group iot
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start grafana-server"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop grafana-server"
-  if failed host localhost port 2942 protocol http then restart
+  if failed port 2942 protocol http
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_influxdb

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop influxdb"
   if failed port 8086 type tcp
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_mastodon

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop mastodon-web"
   if failed port 4220 type tcp
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout
 
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop mastodon-streaming"
   if failed port 4210 type tcp
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout
 

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_matrix

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop matrix-synapse"
   if failed port 8008 type tcp
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_mongodb

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop mongod"
   if failed port 27017 type tcp
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_mosquitto

   group iot
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start mosquitto"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop mosquitto"
-  if failed host localhost port 1883 type tcp then restart
-  if failed host localhost port 8883 type tcp then restart
-  if failed host localhost port 8083 type tcp then restart
+  if failed port 1883 type tcp
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
+  if failed port 8883 type tcp
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
+  if failed port 8083 type tcp
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_openvpn

   group system
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start openvpn@server"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop openvpn@server"
-  if failed port 1194 type udp then alert
-  if failed port 1194 type udp for 5 cycles then restart
+  if failed port 1194 type udp
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
+  if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_pgsql_deb10

   group database
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start postgresql"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop postgresql"
-  if failed host localhost port 5432 protocol pgsql then restart
+  if failed port 5432 protocol pgsql
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_pgsql_deb11

   group database
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start postgresql"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop postgresql"
-  if failed host localhost port 5432 protocol pgsql then restart
+  if failed port 5432 protocol pgsql
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_pgsql_deb9

   group database
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start postgresql"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop postgresql"
-  if failed host localhost port 5432 protocol pgsql then restart
+  if failed port 5432 protocol pgsql
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_postfix

   group mail
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start postfix"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop postfix"
-  if failed port 25 protocol smtp then restart
+  if failed port 25 protocol smtp
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_prosody

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop prosody"
   if failed port 5222 type tcp
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_redis

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop redis"
   if failed port 6379 type tcp
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_rocketchat

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop rocketchat"
   if failed port 3042 protocol http
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_rspamd

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop rspamd"
   if failed port 11333 type tcp
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_slapd

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop slapd"
   if failed port 389 protocol LDAP3
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_sshd

   group system
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start ssh"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop ssh"
-  if failed host 127.0.0.1 port 22 protocol ssh then restart
+  if failed port 22 protocol ssh
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_tomcat_deb10

   group mail
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start tomcat9"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop tomcat9"
-  if failed port 8080 then alert
-  if failed port 8080 for 5 cycles then restart
+  if failed port 8080
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
+  if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_tomcat_deb9

   group mail
   start program = "/bin/systemctl start tomcat8"
   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop tomcat8"
-  if failed port 8080 then alert
-  if failed port 8080 for 5 cycles then restart
+  if failed port 8080
+    with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
+    then restart
+  if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout

roles/monitoring/files/etc_monit_conf.d_znc

   stop program = "/bin/systemctl stop znc"
   if failed port 6643 type tcp
     with timeout 10 seconds
+    with retry 2
     then restart
   if 5 restarts within 5 cycles then timeout